Are these your end-of-life goals?

  • Do you want a timely and peaceful transition?
  • Do you want your family members to be free of conflict? For your passing to be private? For others to honor your dignity?
  • Do you want to avoid unbearable end-of-life pain and suffering?
  • Do you want avoid a prolonged dying in Advanced Dementia?

A request for CPR with NO Chest Compressions, if attempt begins within 4 min. (1:04)

An example of making your specific wishes clear on a video. Also, this is an option many people are NOT informed about, but may desire. It may be desired by older women who suffer from osteoporosis and have problems with their heart’s rhythm.

Three myths regarding Advance Care Planning:

1. “My spouse knows what I want.”
When “that time comes, “the person you trust now may not be willing, or available, or able to convince the opposition to honor your wishes (without your clear expression of your specific wishes).

2. “I already have a Living Will.”
Most Living Wills are NOT effective for Advanced Dementia. To be certain your future physician will provide the most aggressive treatment to relieve pain and suffering (if needed), you need to sign another form. Few people know they can have TWO Living Wills.

3. “I am at peace with my choice for DNR (Do Not Attempt to Resuscitate).”
Many people are not informed that they might survive an arrest but still avoid chest compressions; or that having a DNR order puts them at risk for being denied treatments they DO want; or that Living Wills put them at risk for not receiving resuscitation that they may still want.

Our mission:

Caring Advocates’ clinical, legal, and pastoral health care professionals are dedicated to help you…
learn your end-of-life options;
express your wishes strategically: and,
serve as your advocates so others DO honor your wishes.

  • Stanley A. Terman, PhD, MD—introduced by Karen Wyatt, MD, of End Of Life University (Feb, 2014)(2:39)

    Stanley A. Terman, Ph.D., M.D., founded this non-profit organization in 2000 and is its current CEO and Medical Director.


Our greatest fear regarding end-of-life decisions: complete strangers can intrude on our most intimate decisions, and worse—make decisions that we would not make for ourselves. Dr. Terman offers a close to ironclad strategy to preserve control at the end of life, even for those individuals who may ultimately suffer from severe brain damage or dementia. Every pitfall has been considered and solved! It also guides families through the chaos that results from inadequate advance care planning. His book is so good that our organization keeps copies at every office. It is a mainstay of the recommendations we provide our clients.”

Barbara Coombs Lee, PA, FNP, JD; Family Nurse Practitioner and Attorney; President and Co-CEO, Compassion and Choices; Chief Petitioner for the Oregon Death with Dignity Act